My discovery of the world of sugar-daddy dating was rather tedious and standard – a poor fresher in the midst of her first year at University, newly single and looking for a boyfriend who could relieve the financial pressures of student loan lifestyle. This quickly grew tiresome due to the lack of attractive older men in the area, willing to finance me whilst dealing with my 17 year old naive and obtuse outlook on life. It wasn’t until 3 years later, at the slightly more mature age of 20 that I decided to embark once more on the gravy train of paid dating.
I was surprised at how easy it all was. If you say the right things, men are very easy to part with their money. I began by talking with varying men, one of whom was a lecturer at my University, on my course… This probably could have been pursued longer, except for a tiny detail I believe is crucial to make sugar-daddy dating enjoyable for both parties: YOU NEED TO FANCY YOUR SUGAR DADDY
I knew a girl who was a seasoned sugar baby and had no qualms about doing whatever a man asked of her, so long as there was a payment on the horizon. This went to the extent of her meeting one man every week in a hotel for a monthly allowance of about £2000 a month. Easy money? Well, not if you are literally not attracted to the man you are sleeping with, in a physical or emotional sense!!! Her experiences, to me, epitomise what is wrong with sugar-daddy dating – young girls wanting money quick, so sleeping with whatever man shows an interest. He caught on that she had no attraction to him and ended it after she made clear she had no desire of being seen in public with him – now she was still broke, but also lacking in dignity.
Too often when I am discussing my experiences with my friends do they tell me ‘I would definitely do it, I just can’t find men that age attractive’. Yeah, well I mean this is gonna be a serious problem then. I have always been attracted to older men. I remember my first ever celebrity crushes as a young teen being Richard Gere and Tom Selleck, Justin Bieber and Zac Efron literally did nothing for me. Even now, as a late teen and in my early 20s, I have had relationships which aren’t sugar based with men 10+ years older than me, and with ‘boys’ my age. If dating a 19 year old who is only interested in cheating on you, lad banter, and disappointing, uneventful sex isn’t enough to put you off young men for life, I don’t know what is.
You have to fancy your sugar daddy. You have to be excited about seeing them and seeing a text from them (or email for those who need a little discretion). You have to wanna be with them, and not have it be a chore. If you are being offered an allowance or a present or a package which is extremely tempting yet you find the fact that they’re balding, have a middle tyre and say words like ‘throbbing’ heinous and extremely unattractive, you need to give it up! An amazing thing about living in a big city such as London or NYC is the abundance of young, wealthy males there are out there. So many of these men are wanting a sugar-baby type relationship, one where they can wine and dine a young woman, enjoy each others company, have an exciting sex life yet without the commitment and jealousy involved in a standard relationship. There are attractive men in their 20s and 30s who are too busy working to have a conventional relationship – find these men! Date these men! Leave the geriatrics alone and you no longer have to have sex with a man who literally repulses you!